Words from a Survivor of Domestic Violence

Safe Harbor Voice  |  August 11, 2021
Words from a Survivor of Domestic Violence

My name is Linda and I’m a survivor of domestic violence. I was inspired to contribute to this month’s blog by something I received in the mail.

It is from the Human Rights Committee.  A big, beautiful poster that said….


I think that says it all. We all need to be reminded of our greatness especially during difficult times.

This made me think of many things, first, Human rights are Women’s rights and each and every survivor shares these very qualities. After being marginalized by an abuser, it is difficult to muster this self-confidence and belief in ourselves.  If you’re reading this, I’m here to remind you and myself!

I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years. When I met this man, I was newly divorced, from a nice man I must say, was young and quite naïve. I grew up in a close family of hard-working people. I was a trusted and respected member of my family.  We always talked everything over, and while there is no perfect family, I have no complaints. There was no hitting, no drinking, no drugs. Here I was, an open-minded, friendly person who saw the best in people. I wouldn’t recognize a bad guy unless he had a sign on his forehead! Well, he didn’t.

I realized the honeymoon was over when he woke me up at 3:00am, after a night of drinking, and asked me to iron his shirt. I said, are you crazy? And he proceeded to hit me. It was the first time in my entire life that I had been struck. From then on, it was a classic case of apologies, remorse, making up and having it happen over and over again.  It escalated to the point that I didn’t know who I would find when I came home from work. Would it be Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde? It was a horrible time in my life. I was feeling so badly about myself. My self-confidence destroyed. I was terrified of him, and in disbelief that this was my life. I thought it only happened to other people.

What was instrumental in helping me to leave was group therapy.  This was the only place I felt safe enough to talk about what I was going through. I never shared it with any friends or family. I was in this alone, I’m sure you know how that feels. None of these folks shared this issue, but everyone has something they need to work on. We cared for and supported each other. After several months of talking about this, one of the members of the group said, “that’s it, you’re leaving tonight." With the support of 4 members of my group, they drove me to my apartment, we waited to see if anyone was home. I was a nervous wreck for myself and my friends. He wasn’t home, they went with me to the apartment and literally helped me carry my personal belongings out. Fortunately, I had a dear friend who housed me for a bit.

This long story to say, support can make all the difference in your life. If it is available to you take it. You deserve it.

For quite a while I was worried that he would find me, I was always looking over my shoulder. That finally passed, and I am happy to say that I have a wonderful partner and a great life today.



Thank you for reading this long story.

Sending you my very best wishes,


I am a survivor of domestic abuse.

“I didn’t know that I was being abused because...

I am a survivor of domestic abuse.

“I didn’t know that I was being abused because my definition of abuse looked different. My husband pushed me, but most of my suffering was verbal and psychological. I left my husband to protect our young daughter. Almost immediately I felt the weight of his oppression begin to lift. I could see a difference in my daughter as well. Then he broke into my home and assaulted me in-front of her.

I sought help and was led to Safe Harbor. My daughter and I are in counseling now. I am sorting out the mess that abuse has caused. I am finding my voice and seeking opportunities to grow and better my life as well as my daughter's. She will gauge her self-worth from my own self-worth. I must show her that she deserves the best, by expecting the best for myself.

Many years I suffered in silence. By telling my story and being honest with friends and family, I am taking control of my life again.”

- Beth



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