Am I In An Abusive Relationship?

August 22, 2012

Anyone can be a victim of domestic violence, regardless of age, gender, race, ethnicity, religion, educational background, income level, sexual orientation or other factors. If you can answer “yes” to any of the following questions regarding your relationship, you may be experiencing abuse in your relationship. Call 911 if you are in immediate danger, and call our 27/7 crisis line (1.800.291.2139) or email us to inquire about our services.

Does your partner…

  • Hit, slap, punch, or choke you?
  • Threaten you, put you down or call you names?
  • Have outbursts of anger or overreact to small things?
  • Display unreasonable jealousy?
  • Threaten you with weapons or other objects?
  • Show quick or extreme mood swings?
  • Have a history of abuse in past relationships?
  • Treat you like a possession, saying no one else can “have” you?
  • Mistreat pets or children?
  • Try to isolate you from friends or family?
  • Enforce stereotypical ideas of male/female roles in your relationship?
  • Accept no blame or responsibility for his/her behavior?
  • Act charming & likeable in public while treating you badly in private?

If you can answer “Yes” to one or more of these questions, you may be experiencing abuse in your relationship. Safe Harbor offers emergency shelter, counseling, legal advocacy, and support for victims of domestic violence and their children in the Upstate of South Carolina.  You can call Safe Harbor’s 24/7 number to access our services: 1.800.291.2139. If you are in immediate danger, call 911.

Click here to find out about domestic violence resources in other areas of the United States or if you want to learn more about this issue.

I am a survivor of domestic abuse.

“I didn’t know that I was being abused because...

I am a survivor of domestic abuse.

“I didn’t know that I was being abused because my definition of abuse looked different. My husband pushed me, but most of my suffering was verbal and psychological. I left my husband to protect our young daughter. Almost immediately I felt the weight of his oppression begin to lift. I could see a difference in my daughter as well. Then he broke into my home and assaulted me in-front of her.

I sought help and was led to Safe Harbor. My daughter and I are in counseling now. I am sorting out the mess that abuse has caused. I am finding my voice and seeking opportunities to grow and better my life as well as my daughter's. She will gauge her self-worth from my own self-worth. I must show her that she deserves the best, by expecting the best for myself.

Many years I suffered in silence. By telling my story and being honest with friends and family, I am taking control of my life again.”

- Beth



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