Being & Becoming by Amika T. Clark

April 3, 2020
Being & Becoming by Amika T. Clark

‘To be or not to be’ is a famous quote from Hamlet often quoted casually by many.  However for a survivor of domestic violence it is a part of their daily consciousness.  To be more than the stigma, to be more than just a survivor, to be more than shadow…. To be YOU….to be FREE.  Becoming the voice for the voiceless who either lost the battle or to break the generational curses for those that follow.  Becoming intentional in your message of hope equipped with the resources and tools to effectively help others.  Becoming purposeful in your walk with your head upheld but also giving yourself the grace to know each day is a journey.



Fierce and determined I am a woman that stands,

With rounded hips, full pink lips, fleeing from what gender deems is a man.

Push, pull the tug of war never ends,

Cracked and some parts broken, I can’t continue to bend.

An inaudible cry,

Some are present and others don’t even try.

Pillow wet and soaked with tears,

Awakening to some fanfare and more fake cheers.

Focus is the only choice,

Finding ME, MY words, MY voice.

I am a survivor of domestic violence.

“I didn’t know that I was being abused...

I am a survivor of domestic violence.

“I didn’t know that I was being abused because my definition of abuse looked different. My husband pushed me, but most of my suffering was verbal and psychological. I left my husband to protect our young daughter. Almost immediately I felt the weight of his oppression begin to lift. I could see a difference in my daughter as well. Then he broke into my home and assaulted me in-front of her.

I sought help and was led to Safe Harbor. My daughter and I are in counseling now. I am sorting out the mess that abuse has caused. I am finding my voice and seeking opportunities to grow and better my life as well as my daughter's. She will gauge her self-worth from my own self-worth. I must show her that she deserves the best, by expecting the best for myself.

Many years I suffered in silence. By telling my story and being honest with friends and family, I am taking control of my life again.”

- Beth



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